I have come to realize that there will never be normal activities in my life ever again. The things I once could whip through without even be noticed are a thing of the past.Now everyone feels the need to try to "help".Tuesday Rob and I went to vote and after I came out there was an older lady who looked at us and said..I'm so sorry for your loss, I was OK with that but she continued with her helping words."You have other children right? Well thats good, you know you have to GO ON for her? blah blah blah..Did she really think that was going to help us? Well all it did was tick me off. Why can't ppl just stop with I'm sorry for your loss.Rob and I DO NOT need them to say something clever, because they can't.Nothing anybody will ever say can help us.It's not like what they say will push us through the grief and what do they expect our response to be...OMG your right, I still have Robyn, yes that fixes everything. Jerks.Yes we still have Robyn but don't they realize that she is hurting too.I wonder what they would say to her.well you still have your parents.If they would just think before they speak most would see how these phrases hurt us. If they could spend 1 day in our shoes they would understand.How would they cope when Robyn says Mom I can't remember what memories of Dustin I was apart of and which ones I have been told,or I can't remember his voice or the sound of his laugh.How do you help a child with that? Robyn is 14 and everybody thiks she is so tough and is coping so well but..she wears her mask well, behind closed doors she hurts too.I don't know how to help her with this, damn I can't even help myself.I don't know who to turn to for help .Normally I would say GOD but hes not there for me.The chorus of Brooks and Dunn's song sums it up And I know in the big picture I'm just a speck of sand and God's got better things to do than look out for one man. I know he's heard my prayers cause he hears everything, he just ain't answered back or he'd bring you back to me. God must be busy.